Divorce is a highly sensitive topic and the procedure can take its toll on all parties. Disputes over property division and child custody can push parents to their limits.
Fortunately, many former spouses are able to form a healthy co-parenting relationship post-divorce. This doesn’t fully negate the impact divorce has on the children, but it does make the transition easier. Retaining the ability to resolve issues as a family is important as children grow.
It is crucial to remember that all of the hard work that has gone into building your co-parenting relationship can be undone with just a few simple errors. Outlined below are two mistakes that could spoil your co-parenting relationship.
Letting your child get caught in the middle
Tensions might be high after a divorce or there could even be residual hurt feelings after it is over. This can make it challenging for you and your partner to cooperate. However, it is important that you try and put the past behind you and find a way to communicate effectively.
Often, parents opt to use their child as a messenger. For example, one parent may ask their child to inform the other parent that they cannot honor their custody obligations the following week. Not only can this breakdown in communication between parents cause arguments, but it is also a burden that the child should not have to bear.
Sharing inappropriate information with the child
While it is important that parents are able to vent and talk about their problems, children are not always best placed to cope with this. Spouses may have had a toxic relationship when married, and a former partner might have even been a bad partner. This does not necessarily mean that they are a bad parent. Badmouthing a parent in front of the children is of no benefit and it can create significant complications going forward.
Building a successful co-parenting relationship can be challenging but it is certainly possible. As you adjust to life after divorce, keep in mind your legal rights as a parent in Texas.