Couples who get divorced over money sometimes cite disagreements. Maybe one person was committing financial infidelity and not being honest about their spending habits. Or perhaps the couple doesn’t have enough money to make ends meet and they don’t see any solution in the near future, leading to conflicts over finances.
But in some cases, it’s just the way that each person views money that causes these disputes in the relationship or that creates unnecessary stress. How could people’s perception of money push their relationship toward divorce?
2 different sets of values
The problem comes when both people have different values surrounding money. For example, you may value things like stability and security. For you, saving money helps to create this sense of stability and lowers your personal stress levels. You always know that you will have money set aside for the future. You would never want to live paycheck to paycheck.
Your spouse, on the other hand, isn’t as worried about long-term security or stability. As long as you can pay the monthly bills, they don’t even mind living paycheck to paycheck. They value spending money, buying items, having experiences and things like this.
Both of you can be right; it’s not as if either one of these views are inherently wrong. But they are very different, and that means it may be difficult to coexist in the same marital relationship when you look at your finances so differently. You may always feel like the other person is working against you. If you end up getting a divorce, take the time to look into all of your legal options.